Author helps loved ones of the addicted

Cyndee Rae Lutz has a lot to say about how to love someone with an addiction

Posted 8/15/17

Centennial author Cyndee Rae Lutz has gained a lot of momentum for her debut book, “When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict: A Healing Perspective.”

The title recently received a staff recommendation from Tattered Cover Book Store and has rave …

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Author helps loved ones of the addicted

Cyndee Rae Lutz has a lot to say about how to love someone with an addiction

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Centennial author Cyndee Rae Lutz has gained a lot of momentum for her debut book, “When Your Heart Belongs to an Addict: A Healing Perspective.”

The title recently received a staff recommendation from Tattered Cover Book Store and has rave reviews on Amazon.

“The author poured so much of herself into the pages of the book that by the end of the reading you feel like you know her or want to get to know her,” Amazon reviewer K. Akua Gray said. “(It) is not just a book that talks about dealing with situations surrounding substance abuse, it is also a resource manual of check lists, A to Z steps of working through healing processes, and it’s filled with vital questions that penetrate and challenge your thinking and justifications.”

The book, Lutz said, is not about her son, who deals with addiction, but about what happened to her, as a mother of someone battling addiction.

As a result of her son’s addiction, Lutz realized she also developed an addiction.

“They get addicted to drugs, alcohol or whatever, but we get addicted to trying to make them better,” Lutz said. “We are all addicts to a degree. We all seek out coping mechanisms to help us deal with the harshness of life.”

During her son’s addiction, Lutz said she lost herself. By consistently worrying about her son’s whereabouts, she started struggling to focus at work and in her personal life.

“You get to the point where you think that if they are OK, then you are OK,” Lutz said. “It is hard to sleep. It is hard to function. You are living in a place of fear all the time … As a parent it is not like you can divorce them or move away from them. It is your responsibility to help them. But not everyone knows what to do.”

Helping others is a passion of Lutz’s. When she went through a divorce, she publisheda magazine called Divorce in Denver. After three years, she shifted her focus from the magazine to help loved ones of addicted individuals.

The book is centered around what Lutz calls “the three R’s for the soul” — rethinking religion and your inherent worth, reclaiming personal power and reducing your personal essence.

“The whole thing is about transformation,” said Lutz, a yoga teacher, mentor, public speaker and Twelve Steps mentor in Al-Anon.

Yoga, she said, has especially helped change her life.

“I knew I needed to do something for myself in order to function,” she said. “It was one of the things that saved my life.”

Once she started to take her own advice, her son also showed signs of improvement, Lutz said. Today, he lives as a new person.

“He is doing really well,” Lutz said. “He has turned his life around. He is the amazing person I always thought he was.”

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